Posts by troubled mind

Yes I remember the 'break' the only good thing at Sunday meeting. In 1967 we moved North from North Carolina to Illinois. The new KH was right across the street from a small grocery store that had penny candy !!! What luck . Of course the brothers would mention many times that kids shouldn't go over there ,but of course we did it anyways. Running around playing tag in the front yard of the hall was good fun too.

My feelings were that they stopped the break, because too many people used it as an excuse to LEAVE and go home early .

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Has growing up as a JW affected my ability to forgive ?

by troubled mind in

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friends

i really don't understand the concept of forgiveness .

lately in my life several people have thrown that term around so easily ,and i am confused .

is it because we were taught to cut people off so easily as jws that i find it hard to forgive ?.

troubled mind

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Has growing up as a JW affected my ability to forgive ?

by troubled mind in

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friends

i really don't understand the concept of forgiveness .

lately in my life several people have thrown that term around so easily ,and i am confused .

is it because we were taught to cut people off so easily as jws that i find it hard to forgive ?.

troubled mind

Thank you for the replies ! They really help . I don't think I am to far off base then when I expect someone to show they have really changed ,or expect them to apologize honestly for their transgression before forgiving them.

This is how I have been thinking about forgiveness ......Forgivenss is a gift ....it should not be expected ,or demanded .Only the one giving it can decide if they are willing, and able to do so . No one should try to force or manipulate someone in doing so either.

In our family right now my estranged Father in law is dying . Some family members can not understand why my husband has not dropped everything ,and run 1000 miles away to be by his Dad's side . When I tried to explain that he does not have a close relationship with him ,and gave a short history of why ,I was slammed as a liar .My words were turned against me ,and they blamed the JW religion we had been in as the problem . When I emphasised it was not the religion ,but the violence issues ,I was told to forget ,and forgive the past . The Father in law is a stranger to our children ,yet family expects them to call him and show their respects......but they don't even know him ! How can they respect him with any amount of honesty .

It really will not take much for me to just walk away from this craziness . That is what bothers me ....do I give up on people to easily ? Are all families this nuts ? When a family member berates you ,calls you names ,says that your lying ....are you just expected to forget it, and go on as though nothing has happened because they are related to you ?? Don't think I can do that . I am not prone to retaliate back in an unkind way ,but the person doesn't get another chance either .

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Has growing up as a JW affected my ability to forgive ?

by troubled mind in

jw
friends

i really don't understand the concept of forgiveness .

lately in my life several people have thrown that term around so easily ,and i am confused .

is it because we were taught to cut people off so easily as jws that i find it hard to forgive ?.

troubled mind

I really don't understand the concept of forgiveness . Lately in my life several people have thrown that term around so easily ,and I am confused . Is it because we were taught to cut people off so easily as JWs that I find it hard to forgive ?

My Christian friend is always telling me we must forgive others .....and I my answer back to her was WHY ? I understand the concept of not harbouring hatred because it can affect your health . But why do I need to forgive someone if I think they are dispicable ? If you treat me badly ,I usually do not give you another chance . For example she had a relative that cheated and mistreated his wife ,and the family said they had to forgive him ,and give him not a second ,but third chance .To me that seems like your just setting yourself up to let him mistreat her again .I had a hard time understanding why they would do that ..

Another example is of a man that was estranged for yrs from his son .This man had physically abused his son's Mother in front of him when the son was a child .Finally they divorced ,and after the divorce he went on to physically abuse his next wife .He never was abusive to his children ,but the son resented what the Father had done to his Mother . Years went by ,and the son ,and Father never saw or spoke to one another . Decades past ,and now the elderly sick Father is seeking sympathy from the son . Is it wrong that the son no longer has feelings for his Father ? Isn't it his choice whether or not he goes to him now ? He has been told that the past is the past ,to get over it ,and to do the right thing because this man is family ... But I think family is not just family because you share DNA ,I think family has to remain deserving of respect .....is that because I am brainwashed from JW days ? I ask because that is exactly what I was told from other family members .

Do you understand what I am saying ?,sorry if it is not clear . What do you think ?

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Well, it was your basic KH wedding, now 40 years later

by JeffT in

my wife and i still like each other.

fortieth is "ruby.

" since rubies aren't in the budget, we went to ruby beach for the weekend.

troubled mind

Congratulations ! Ruby Beach what a great idea !

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Whatever happened has a lesson for us!

by Kalos in

when my dad left jws, his stoic remark was: it was not a total wastage; after all i learned something good about the witnessestheir resolve to continue with their original claim that they are the appointed channel of god, even when they know in their heart of hearts that they are not.

why cant i imitate that sort of resolve in doing something worthwhile?

he thus echoed confucius who said: to be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.. a poor choice we made, some obstructions or some resistance are almost always viewed with fear and anxiety.

troubled mind

I enjoyed the post . I agree it may not make sense to some ,but the farther you are from the pain the easier it is to look at other philosophies ,and appreciate a different perspective.

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WT Books for Sale

by ILoveTTATT in

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friends

i have a bunch of wt books for sale, including:.

divine plan of the ages.

finished mystery - includes the pages that got rutherford in jail!.

troubled mind

I could kick myself ....I had all of these and more ,and threw them out just last month . Who knew people on Ebay would PAY for them ! Crazy ! I did keep the collection of Divine Plan of the Ages ...see if I can get something out of them .